Chapter Seven Exercise Two
Commitment: Good Time, Bad Times
Think of some of the activities that you’ve done with your friends, coworkers, and teammates. Sort these into two categories:
- Fun activities such as listening to music and going to parties or movies
- Activities when your car breaks down, helping you when you are sick.
Now rate each activity (1-10 scale) on how much they make you feel committed and loyal to the other person.
- Watching T.V shows -I like to watch T.V. shows with my friends with commentary! – 7
- Hanging out -I like having a chill time with my family and friends at home talking – 6
- Going to the movies -I think going with a friend to react with each other during a movie is fun – 6
- Car Talks – I like this fun activity because the best conversations happen here for me – 9
- Helping with my Homework -I think people wanting to work with you to succeed is good – 8
- Keeping me company on an errand – I like that people think to want to hang out with you – 8
- Willing to do something the other wants to do – The willingness to go out of your comfort zone. 10
“What things can leaders do to demonstrate their commitment and loyalty to their team?
This question asked in the reading can explain the “how” of the article. Leaders can see what makes their specific employees feel like they are bonding. Some groups do team-building exercises because they want to achieve a sense of commonality and trust. There can be other ways to do that. One thing I noticed was finding something to pay attention to that both people like can help. For watching a movie or going out to go bowling a commonality can open a new connection. It is good to know people outside of the workplace as well.
“Which leader gets your commitment: the one who throws great office parties or the one who stays late working side by side with you on your big projects?
I think the “why” of this article is to see what we want in a leader. I think the person who stays up late working side by side with you on your big project is more important than the one who grows great office parties. It depends on what the leader is there for. It is one thing if the leader is supposed to bring people together, or if the goal is to get things done efficiently. It also can show how you want to be as a leader. I think that having those moments where people would go out of their way to help you with homesick or keep you company on a late night is better for connecting. I can see how I can incorporate that into what I do, when I have the leadership role.