Terve = Hello in Finnish
I had a really good conversation with an old high school friend. I was not as close with her in high school, but since we go to the same university and live in the same building we talk a lot more. I think I can say that she was perceived differently in high school. I think it is best to say that you can never judge a book by its cover.
We went down memory lane of high school, and we both realized it was a brutal one. People were mean, but people were also nice. Sometimes we never expected certain people to be our friends, but we made the greatest unlikely friendships. We both were seen in different ways. I was a little suprised when she mentioned that I was along with someone else the “nicest person that they met” in high school. My friend also told me that people I was not personally close with said that I was a very nice person . I mean I try to be nice, but I just always thought that was the norm. I thought everyone treated the people the way I did. People today get suprised when someone says “please” and “thank you” or opens the door for you. I do not call that as being extra nice. That is common courtesy and being nice to another human being. I guess I can be naive in that sense.
Anyways, I realized that I heard things about her that she probably did not know. They were not the nicest things. We both agree that we are glad we are done with the drama of high school. We miss people, but just not the atmosphere of the peers. She really has gone through a lot, and through those things she does stuff that may be off-putting to some people. I would have never known the full story if I did not talk to her one-on-one. She is an amazing person, and she minds her own business. I was telling her some events that happened in high school, and she just brushed them off. She is not naive in that sense. She sees people from how they treat her, and not from what is heard through the grapevine. I think I need to work on that.
I do think everyone deserves respect, but I am chismosa if you will. I learned how to understand Tagalog from listening in on my mom. I do not tell anyone farther than my direct friends, but usually I am the last person to know anyways. I need to not be naive in that way. I need to mind my own business. I cannot judge people when they are on their own journey. It is what they teach in Peer Diversity. Rumors are never true, and are often exaggerated and fictional. I never act upon it, but I need to have a more open mind about it. People are usually never as accurate as how they are perceived. I may be nice to a lot of people, but I also have my moments. I know when to pick and choose my battles. I am not a confrontational person. I like to be on everyone’s side. I also need to look out for me. I need to focus on where I am going, and I do not need to focus so much on people who are not even relevant to myself. People used to even say I have resting nice face.
I really respect the person I talked to today. She really opened my eyes on something I tended to ignore. She did not pry into other people’s business, and she controlled herself. When I hear things I should not repeat it. I should just assume it is not true. I need to have some more genuine conversations with people. I need to talk to people more than just about boys and drama. I need to put in more positive energy by giving out positive energy. Not in just how I treat people, but also of how I think of people. I should not judge someone on what they have accomplished or on their reputation. Each person is so complex that we should never really accept things we are told about them. We need to take a chance with everyone.
The last thing she and I talked about was taking chances. She was telling me that she wanted to get in touch with someone again. She did not talk to him for a long time. I told her about myself taking chances. I told her that I felt I would have always regretted it if I did not try. I talked to a lot of people that I did not think I could ever talk to. I took chances, and the best thing I got out of it was not the other person’s approval. It was me doing what I wanted. I put my words into action. I might have made a fool out of myself, but that was me. I always was so inspired when my family and friends would do things that I thought I could never do. My biggest obstacle was me. I kept playing different scenarios in my head. I psyched myself out before I even got in the game. Same thing for when I work out. I always found an excuse for myself. I always down-played myself. I already told myself I could not do it before I even tried. I ended up comparing myself to people it would not have even been possible to compare to. I need to mind my own business.
I need to push myself up, and I need to take chances on me. Also I just need to do push-ups. Hehe.
I am glad I talked to her today, and I hope I helped her as she helped me.
To think I was about to sleep, but I had quite a bit to say huh? Again, another thought that would have gone away if I did not write it down. Anyways I hope you have a very good night, and I will talk to you tomorrow. 🙂