Week Three – Chapter Seven, Exercise One

Chapter Seven Exercise One

Leader-Member Relationships: In-Group/Out-Groups or Individualized Relationships

Instructions: Think of a group that you belong to and identify the leader of that group. Tate each member’s relationship with the leader on a 1 to 10 scale. Do the rates fall into distinct clusters with a big clump for the in-group and another clump for the out-group? Or do they fall more into a continuous distribution with some people scattered throughout the rating scale?

Leader: Tita

  • Colleen: 10 – Daughter of owner
  • Alyssa (me): 6
  • Ariele: 6 – My sister
  • Alfie: 10 – Son of owner

For my experience, I will talk about my current job’s group. I work at a playland that is a family-owned business. I work with my sister, and the rest of the employees are from another family. I put 10 with Colleen and Alfie because they are the children of the owner. I put me and my sister, Ariele, as 6 because I feel like we are starting to have a trusting relationship with the owner. I do see those distinct clusters with the in-group, but I feel that the family is very welcoming and inviting. They treat us like family, but I feel there needs to be more time to solidify that relationship.

The “HOW”

I think for the how of this activity it will help me see the dynamics of the employees and the boss. I know since this is a family business it is important to not only have a good relationship with the boss, but I need to have a good relationship with the kids as well. If something happens between me and the children of the owner, then it would not go well with the boss. I need to make sure that I see where those relationships should be. It is okay to be a little out of the in-group (especially if the family is the in-group). I know not to try to infiltrate that group when there is a dynamic already.

The “WHY”

I think we did this activity to see how our specific situation can be affected by natural in-groups and out-groups. I think it is important to realize I do not have to be in the in-group of my team, and that it is okay to not be. It is good to know who the in-groups and out-groups are to see where you best fit. For one job I might want to be in the in-group, but another job I would want to be in the out-group. I can choose and work to what I think is best for me.


Week Three – Chapter Seven

Chapter Seven

I really feel like I learned from this chapter. Chapter seven is about the relationship between employees and managers. I think we all can see these occurrences in our workplaces. It talks about two different group. There are in-groups, who are people who have high-quality relationships with their manager. The other side is being in out-groups, who are people who have low-quality relationships.

As it was in the past chapters it talks about how valuing everyone equally. I think it is important to know that people can work best in either being in an in-group or out-group. It depends on how you want to be in the workplace, or what is allowed. There are some bosses that like to separate work and play. In that instance, the employees are not able to have a closer relationship with the boss. There are also people that want to be in the out-group. The employee does not want to have a personal relationship with their boss. I can see both sides. I feel like for me it depends on which manager I am talking to.

The chapter also talks about how which group you could impact your performance. It is commonly understood that if you have a closer relationship with someone you can trust that person. That will lead to being invested in the work you both are involved in. A closer relationship with your boss can promote a higher level of performance.

Another main thing mentioned in the chapter is favoritism. Favoritism can be a result from closer relationships you build with your manager. This can lead to tension with other employee-boss relationships, and can create problems amongst employees. I think we all have seen in a classroom setting or a work setting of favoritism being played out. It does not have to be a negative thing, but it can cause an unfair advantage to one person. I can see this from the boss’s perspective. There are people you can just be in-sync with automatically, and that is good when you want efficiency. Or when an employee makes it very clear they just want work to get done it is hard to fully commit yourself to work with someone. I try not to have favoritism when I lead a group because I know what it feels like to see favoritism play out. Sometimes it is hard to spot when you are the one who might be playing favoritism. I need to be aware of that.

The “HOW”

For the “how” it is important to be aware of how you are perceiving others in the work environment. As a leader, you must make sure to treat people equally, and with all individual attention. That sounds very hard to do for me. You should understand how people work, and do it in a way that does not show favoritism. It is also good to know people’s intentions. There are some people that want a more friend-to-friend interaction in the workplace, and there are some people who want to work hard and be involved. Those two may not necessarily be treated the same way. It is important to know who is in the in-group, and who may not feel good being in the out-group. Sometimes limits have to be used to make this better.

The “WHY”

I think we learned this stuff because we want to make sure we know a lot about business dynamics to increase job satisfaction and job performance. It is not just about doing the work, but it is also about how you get the work done. The relationship you have with your employee or boss can make and break your experience and performance at the company. It is good to not have just one group of workers but to have a good mix. It is important for all strengths to be utilized in the group, and the relationship with the boss has a big impact on that. That way the longtime effects of the performance will be positive.

Week Two – The Prince 1-10

The Prince – Chapters 1-10

I have heard of Machiavelli before, but I have never read The Prince. Here are my main thoughts on Chapters 1-10.


I think that this explanation of people either knowing they live under a prince or to live in freedom. I think this relates to people growing up in different countries. This can relate to the culture of different countries. As a simple example people in the U.S. may see that is it essential to tip their waiter, but in France, it is rude to tip their waiter. It is just what you know, and it does not necessarily distinguish who is right and wrong.


“For the hereditary prince has less cause and less necessity to offend; hence it happens that he will be more loved; and unless extraordinary vices cause him to be hated, it is reasonable to expect that his subjects will be naturally well disposed towards him;”

I think this is interesting. People who believe that is how life is will naturally see their prince as a godsend. People treat some world leaders as Gods because that is all they know. They will praise them, even when the leader does not deserve it. That is quite scary.


“In this way you have enemies in all those whom you have injured in seizing that principality, and you are not able to keep those friends who put you there because of your not being able to satisfy them in the way they expected, and you cannot take strong measures against them, feeling bound to them.”

This is a risk that leaders have. In one moment, things can go wrong. The worst part is that your decision can not only affect you, but it could affect everyone around you. You cannot make everyone happy, so sometimes being a leader can feel like being trapped. One mistake can change the harmony of the business, and the leader has to deal with the consequences.

“the most real help would be that he who has acquired them should go and reside there. This would make his position more secure and durable, as it has made that of the Turk in Greece, who, notwithstanding all the other measures taken by him for holding that state, if he had not settled there, would not have been able to keep it. Because, if one is on the spot, disorders are seen as they spring up, and one can quickly remedy them; but if one is not at hand, they are heard of only when they are great, and then one can no longer remedy them.”

This might be a good strategy, but as we learn you cannot be everywhere all the time. Louis made some mistakes, and now he has to deal with those consequences. Being a prince sounds really hard. This also was an intense chapter in general.


“When these things are remembered no one will marvel at the ease with which Alexander held the Empire of Asia, or at the difficulties which others have had to keep an acquisition, such as Pyrrhus and many more; this is not occasioned by the little or abundance of ability in the conqueror, but by the want of uniformity in the subject state.”

I think that is an interesting section of the reading because most of the time the people in the textbooks are known for one main thing, and all of the other details are forgotten. It does not matter the ong journey you had to go through, but what most of the time the end product was. I think being a good leader is to do a lot of behind-the-scenes stuff. It also is important to note that there are different ways at achieving success, or in this case to colonize entire countries. Patato Paatato.


“But when cities or countries are accustomed to live under a prince, and his family is exterminated, they, being on the one hand accustomed to obey and on the other hand not having the old prince, cannot agree in making one from amongst themselves, and they do not know how to govern themselves. For this reason they are very slow to take up arms, and a prince can gain them to himself and secure them much more easily. But in republics there is more vitality, greater hatred, and more desire for vengeance, which will never permit them to allow the memory of their former liberty to rest; so that the safest way is to destroy them or to reside there.”

I thought this part was interesting because of how countries that used to have royalty will be very slow in taking up arms. I think this is viable for all parts of change. All the major changes happening in this country decades after the revolution took time to become changes. I think in some part some of my generation forgets all the hard work the people before us have fought for rights their whole lifetime. A lot of things happened since I was born, and we have to continue fighting for rights to continue the work.


“And it ought to be remembered that there is nothing more difficult to take in hand, more perilous to conduct, or more uncertain in its success, than to take the lead in the introduction of a new order of things, because the innovator has for enemies all those who have done well under the old conditions and lukewarm defenders in those who may do well under the new…Thus it happens that whenever those who are hostile have the opportunity to attack they do it like partisans, whilst the others defend lukewarmly, in such wise that the prince is endangered along with them.”

I think this is known to people who start up their own business. It is a scary thing to go into unchartered territory, and all eyes will be on you. One mistake can cost you your business. That means being more critically criticized, and having a small group of people on your side. They can go against you at any moment because there is no foundation to the business yet. That is a risk!


“And above all things, a prince ought to live amongst his people in such a way that no unexpected circumstances, whether of good or evil, shall make him change; because if the necessity for this comes in troubled times, you are too late for harsh measures; and mild ones will not help you, for they will be considered as forced from you, and no one will be under any obligation to you for them.”

It is important to show how you are as a leader when you are the first introduced, so people know what to expect. They want reliability when things go well, and when things go bad. This reminded me of the Goldilocks story, where you do not want a leader who is too much of this or that. You need a good idea of what the situation is. If not, you are in for a bad situation.


“Therefore, one who becomes a prince through the favor of the people ought to keep them friendly, and this he can easily do seeing they only ask not to be oppressed by him. But one who, in opposition to the people, becomes a prince by the favor of the nobles, ought, above everything, to seek to win the people over to himself, and this he may easily do if he takes them under his protection.”

This is interesting because of this works with politicians. There are politicians that are chosen by the people, and then there are judges chosen by a board. We can get leadership in different ways. It is important to make people feel listened to when their leader is someone they did not choose. Leaders have a thin line in bringing fellow members of the team, but also being seen as someone who is in charge.


“Therefore, a prince who has a strong city, and had not made himself odious, will not be attacked, or if anyone should attack he will only be driven off with disgrace; again, because that the affairs of this world are so changeable, it is almost impossible to keep an army a whole year in the field without being interfered with.”

“Further, the enemy would naturally on his arrival at once burn and ruin the country at the time when the spirits of the people are still hot and ready for the defence; and, therefore, so much the less ought the prince to hesitate; because after a time, when spirits have cooled, the damage is already done, the ills are incurred, and there is no longer any remedy, and therefore they are so much the more ready to unite with their prince, he appearing to be under obligations to them now that their houses have been burnt and their possessions ruined in his defence.”

This book is wild. I think that there is no way that a prince, or a leader now, can go on their journey scot-free. I think that one point of questioning the leader will come to the followers. It is up to the prince on how their reaction will be changed. I think that princes need to think fast before a revolution occurs against the prince. And can we comment on how America sounds like this right now?!?

The “HOW”

“Therefore a wise prince ought to adopt such a course that his citizens will always in every sort and kind of circumstance have need of the state and of him, and then he will always find them faithful.”

I think how this will impact me is seeing how a prince or a leader needs to align their goals. I think this quote from the reading is really important. As a leader it is vital that you show everyone is an integral part of the group, and most importantly you need to make sure you show that you can really help your fellow people. In a way, you have to show that you matter to keep in power. It is perpexing because you want a team that is self-sufficient, but you also want to make sure that they need a leader to succeed. There has been that research in the previous chapters of teams doing better with leaders, so both the leader and the team can benefit from the relationship. I need to make sure that as a leader I can be reminded of that idea.

The “WHY”

“Because such a government, being created by the prince, knows that it cannot stand without his friendship and interest, and does its utmost to support him; and therefore he who would keep a city accustomed to freedom will hold it more easily by the means of its own citizens than in any other way”

I think that this is part of the “why” we read these parts of the reading. I think it is important for the leader to know what is best for their people. If the leader wants to keep their job, then they have to accomodate to its people. It is important to make those friendship and create trust. Princes and leaders cannot think everyone they look over will blindly follow them. It is also important to allocate the power, and have the people more at ease. Just like in Europe the royal family have a democracy along with them. That is what kees them in a good ligth because if they kept being in power who knows what would have happened to them. Give the poeple what they want, but also do it that everyone can benefit from the situation. Princes and leaders have to make the tough decisions, so they need to show their people that they have their best interest.


Week Two – Chapter Five

Chapter Five – The Behavioral Approach to Leadership’ Women and Leadership

This chapter talks about how approaching leadership with different behaviors can bring success. Something that I related to was the team management combination of the dimensions. Some people feel that a concern for people and concern for results cannot both be achieved. You have to sacrifice one for the other. I think that I work (or try to work) by doing both. I like making people feel appreciated because I know I like when other people do it for me. I also think that I feel that I have to prove myself when I do a job, and I also want to make sure that my choices create success. The more effective leaders are the ones who support their subordinates and look out for their welfare. I saw this in my job as a Senior Resident Assistant. It was my first time having to be in charge of a group in residence life. I needed to both make my team members feel good, but I also needed to make sure that I bring the results my boss want.

I really like this chapter! From the past readings, I realized I needed to find more women business leaders, and this chapter helped! When discussing how socialization can affect the leadership style women were more likely to be nurturing and caregiving. Men are taught to be tough and to focus on problem-solving. The traits taught to men are seen as what a leader should be. I think it is important to see that firms that had a high-intensity innovation strategy benefited from having women in the top team and were more profitable as a result.  The point is that having different perspectives is important in building a successful business, and so that means having more people at the table. The traits that they are taught should also be used when they lead. Skills can be learned, but it also is good to just be a nice person. It is nice to see women be celebrated for their work, and how they are as leaders.

The “HOW”

Something I will take away from this chapter is to remember to use a high-high approach. this means to use both initiating structure and consideration to be an effective leader. I think I want to find a good balance between the two. I really try to be a considerate person because I know there are days where we have experienced people not being considerate to us. It is important to create that kind of environment. I think consideration is linked with empathy, which was discussed in the last chapter. It is important to show that with everyone you encounter. That also means to show consideration to people who are not like you. It means to have an open-mind, and I hope more people are like that. That way more women and minority groups can help with success in a company.  It is good to include everyone because everyone can bring something to the table.

The “WHY”

A “why” for me for this article is to be considerate and nice when thinking about being a good leader. Of course, there are times when leaders have to be strict and impersonal, but it never hurts to be nice when you can. I really appreciate the first case of “It Pays to Be Nice”. I always get told that me being nice will result in me being taken advantage of and that I cannot make it in the business world. I think it is super important that people get a good feeling about you. People believe in being genuine. It is also good for business. You might have an amazing product, but if you are not sincere people will not buy or come back to your business. There are so many reviews online of people complaining about rude interactions with employees of the business. It really pays to be nice. And heck you might get your next connection by being nice to just be nice to someone. It also is reassuring because women and men are raised to behave differently, so it is nice to know that women can still be successful business leaders. It is just in a different way.

Week Two – Chapter Four

Chapter Four – How Emotional Intelligence, Skills, and Competencies Increase Leader Effectiveness

This chapter is about seeing the different types of emotional intelligence, and how that can relate to leadership and job performance. I think emotional intelligence is hard because your feelings can get the best of you. I think at times when we first start out at a job we are critical of what people think of us. We use our emotional intelligence to gauge how we can have people approve of us, and what we have to do to work with our fellow employees. The other aspect of emotional intelligence is controlling our emotions. When I have a resident yelling at me at 3:00 in the morning I have to control my emotions to not escalate the situation.

The first stream talks about how empathy is a central part of the emotionally intelligent behavior. They are able to use ability-based emotional intelligence measures. They do tests to see what overall people think of people’s emotions. It is important overall what the majority of people perceive you in your work. They will be more willing to work with you if you have a higher measure, and that will allow people to trust you as well. The other side is that people could not trust you if they can sense you are not telling the truth. It is important to be aware of how you are expressing yourself in the workplace.

The second stream is self-report measures. This stream helps you look over your emotional intelligence, and thus you can improve accordingly. It is important to learn about your bad behaviors before it becomes instinctual. There is the Workgroup Emotional Intelligence Profile that has people rate themselves and their peers on emotional intelligence. They saw a link between emotional intelligence with doing better with work performance. People with high emotional intelligence are able to more quickly assess each other’s personalities and can make more effective teams. This would be a good way to help with a team that regularly works together, and can encourage each other when things get hard. I know my whole team needs to sue emotional intelligence when we do fire drills or room check-outs.

The third stream is mixed models of Emotional Competencies and related social skills. They said that the four main dimensions of emotional intelligence are self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management. Socially intelligent leaders show empathy, attunement, organizational awareness, and teamwork. It is one thing to be good at leading but it is also important o be a fellow team player as well. I also think this is important because for employees to do their best they have to trust their leader. They also want to be comfortable in their job, and that can be done with personal connections with employees. The leader needs to have a persona, where people know the leader can be approached.

The “HOW”

As for the “how: there were a few good tips at the end of the chapter I can take away with me. As someone who wants to be in public service, I thought I always had to be an introvert. It said that I do not always have to be the life of the party. Sometimes I can demonstrate my technical skills to prove myself. It also talked about expanding my knowledge about how to solve problems. For a liberal arts education, I learn about a lot of areas of knowledge, but I know that all that information I learn can help me in some way with what I am doing. That means by using both my intellectual and emotional side. It is about finding a good balance between the two, and that is different for all of us. I am going to work on that, and some self-reflection measure can help me see my progress on it.

The “WHY”

I think a “why” we read this article is to remember to have empathy towards people. Like it said in the chapter that you do not have to work for a charity to demonstrate empathy. If you show people empathy, then people will be willing to do good things back to you. People look for someone they can look up to, and someone they can collaborate with. Empathy is powerful in making those two things work together. Coach Wooden said that “I must believe you must love in your heart for the people under your leadership. This is true in the fact that the most successful groups see each other as a family. It is important to have that emotional connection with people, or we would be robots. It makes people feel better when they are not seen as a number. I like it when my bosses make personal connections with me. In order to be a good leader, you have to be happy. One way to be happy is to see that your team is happy. At the end of the day, people are equals, and so emotional intelligence helps project that out.


Week Two – Chapter Three

Chapter Three – Cognitive Intelligence, Complex Task Performance

This chapter talks about the how certain aspects of yourself could contribute to how you are perceived as a leader. I thought of how initially that intelligence can help with leadership, but I did not think about characteristics like emotional display. When it talked about complex task performance it talked about how the ability for managers to do interesting complex tasks made them more enthusiastic. That, in turn, had people respond positively to the manager’s performance because of their emotional display. I feel that is something we all do when we have to go to work.

The last thing I wanted to touch on was emotional tagging. Emotional tagging is when memories that form the basis for pattern recognition are tagged with emotions. I think this is super interesting because everyone says to either make decisions with your head or your heart. In this case, either can be right. Ther first time there is a success it might’ve worked with your method or luck. It may not work the first time but your emotions can remember the success that happened before. It is important to use that cognitive intelligence and to make sure your emotions are in check.

The “How”

How this will impact me is by seeing what skills I need to work on. I think I think of certain aspects of being a good leader, but leaders just need to be good all around. That also means that leaders always have to have regular self-reflection for the company to grow as well. The different thing that leaders can work with is knowing that there is an importance of the interactions between the leader style, the environmental complexity, and the type of situation. That means to always brainstorm and think of different ways to keep up with the current leadership style. For Zuckerberg or Jobs, they needed to create their own leadership style for the new digital age. I know to always keep on progressing.

The “Why”

In the chapter, it talks about how “our ability to make good leadership decisions is not fixed. There are things that we can do to improve our decision making.” I think this is an important “why” because we cannot stay stagnant with our leadership skills and experience. There is one thing to have the talent of being a leader, but to stay a good leader one has to continue honing on those skills. Just like in the personal reflection Tony Heish and Hicks Waldron saw that they needed to demonstrate their talents on complex tasks through time to get a good job.

The other “why” on why we read this article is to not judge people on what type of work they do. A lot of the time we do way more than what is on the job description. every person in a company is an integral part of making sure the company runs smoothly. It is important for the leader to make sure everyone feels respected and appreciated. That way their employees can do the best they can do, and it will maximize the efficiency of the work.

Week One – Chapter Two, Exercise One

Exercise: Who Am I?

Instructions: Write down 10 words that you feel best to describe yourself. Then see how other people will think of your list. I asked my friends to help me with this. It was really hard to think of these also. I had to have my friends think of them for me. It feels kind of awkward thinking of these words as well.

  1. Caring – I think one of the things I want people to know is that I am caring. I like to make people feel accepted
  2. Open-Minded – I have worked actively to be more open-minded. This means especially for people’s experiences that are not like mine. I like to be a little uncomfortable with being with people who do not look like me because I will never be comfortable until I go learn on my own. I think we all need to do that, so I need to do my part.
  3. Weird- I think I am comfortable with making a fool out of myself. I am just me, and I try to think too much of keep up an appearance or
  4. Friendly – I think I try to be friendly, and I want to make sure people feel accepted.
  5. Generous – I try to be there for people that I care about. I hope it can come off as a positive thing.
  6. Trustworthy – I try to be this for my friends and family.
  7. Passionate – When I am passionate about something I think it
  8. Genuine – I think I have gotten more comfortable in being myself, so I hope I am genuine in my own right.
  9. Comfort – I think people say my style is a comfort, but I guess I embody that as well.
  10. Adaptable – I think I am able to adapt to certain situations.

The “How”

I think making lists like this keeps your identity intact. I know it is easy to list things we also do not like about ourselves, but I think it is important to think of positives as well. I think making lists of how we see ourselves, but also making a list of how other people think of us is good too. I think making lists maybe once a month may help me. Also, something that really helped my staff was that we all wrote positive things about each other. It ended up giving everyone a boost because a lot of the time we want to thank people, but we do not do it as often as we should. I also like to ask for feedback from people. I think this exercise of asking people I am close to help. It was hard to think often on my own.

The “Why”

I think we are doing this exercise because this is another way to see how we want to be perceived. I think when we genuinely know what we are, but sometimes it gets lost in what other people tell about us. Sometimes people want to acknowledge the positive more than our own selves do. So, it is nice when people can see the good in us, and so we know what we can do and what we can improve on. It is good to see what the main priorities of what we want to be. Lastly, I think it is nice to do some self-reflection. As an INFP, I think my personality loves to self-reflect. I think everyone does, but we should actively do it. It helps us face the things we have been trying to avoid, and it also helps us celebrate the good things about us!

Week One – Chapter Two Overview

Chapter Two – How Personality Traits Influence Leader Emergence

This chapter seems to be about how personality plays a part in the discussion of leadership. There are essentially two fundamental dimensions of leadership. The first one is the competency dimension, which consists of traits like intelligent, energetic, and motivated. I feel like I can do better at being more confident about my intelligence and work ethic. The second dimension is the warmth dimension, which refers to traits related to being sociable, friendly, and caring. I feel like I do better at this, but I also want to make sure I am not taken advantage of. I wish people would not see this as a weakness because this is where you can genuinely connect with people.

Something that I had heard of before this book was the Big Five Model of Personality. The dimensions of the Big Five are Neuroticism, Extraversion, Openness to Experience, Agreeableness, and Conscientiousness. For me, I think I am more on the neuroticism side. Neuroticism is when the people tend to be anxious and worried. I think I like to micro-manage, so it is a fault. I do think I need to work on being calmer in certain situations. I think I am an introvert, where I like to spend more time alone, prefer more solitary activities, and draw from self-reflection.  I think to try to be better at openness, which refers to originality, creativity, and willingness to try new experiences. I think I am open when it comes to professional decisions. I do think I need to be better at trying new things personally by going on more adventures and learning more about the world. I do think I am strong in agreeableness, where it talks about cooperation, sensitivity, and the need to be liked. I think it is more important for people to like me professionally than personally. I need to make sure everyone is taken care of, or that at least everyone has respect for one another. I do care that people can trust me as a leader in my job settings. The last one is conscientiousness, where I think I am in the middle of that spectrum. I do see myself having a willingness to work, but when I have the motivation to. I always do not have that persistence, when I do not feel like it. That is something I should work on. It was interesting to see how openness and extraversion were the most important. I think my job as a Senior Resident Assistant has helped me with my extroversion, but I am glad I had my time to refuel.

Lastly, I wanted to touch on the case of Tom Monaghan and Ted Turner. It was brilliant that they had a high locus of control and a high level of openness to see a window of opportunity. I think being innovative is seeing things that are already out there, and work from there. They could be very different, but they sued the same ideals to succeed. I can only imagine the number of people who thought they were crazy or wrong to take such a chance, but now we see it as the norm. Tom founded Domino’s Pizza, and create a large industry because of it. Ted could branch off into different sectors with Turner Broadcasting Systems. With their varying interests, like Tom loving the architecture of Frank Lloyd Wright, it also shows that inspiration can come from everywhere. So keep your eyes open for the next big idea! 😊

The “How”

One of the things that I will get from this is thinking about how core self-evaluations will work. It did show that CEOs who had core self-evaluations had a higher team winning percentages, had higher fan attendance, and have lower turnover. I need to think of how my team perceives me, and how I can always improve. Sometimes, it is hard for people to say if there is a problem if they are not given a platform for that. I know that I am an INFP from taking a test prior, but I need to learn the proper information to make use of those. It says that people with high thinking and judging combination are prevalent among top managers. I can try to implement more of these traits in my skills I need to practice on. Lastly, I can maybe use my own form of a core-evaluation to use with my team. I can make it that we will not just be evaluating certain people, but I think I can figure out a way to evaluate us as a team. That can work.

The “Why”

I think we read this because of one of the points mentioned in the “put it into practice” of the chapter. It says that “realize that introverts and extroverts can both be successful; find the path to success that matched your personality”. I think this is relieving for many. There are so many assumptions as to when it comes to what traits you have. Sometimes people say we are living in an extroverted world, or that the introverted people are the best kind of leaders. What is important is what this chapter is saying is that you can use however you are to the fullest. I did my best when I just accepted how I am, and the first part in that is realizing what traits you have. You should not feel like you cannot achieve what you can just because you are not open, or if you do not have a high locus of control. Self-reflection is critical in being a good person and good leader. If anything, personality is your secret weapon. That is what makes you different from everyone else, and that is what can make you a good leader. You just got to find what it is. Hey, you can use your skills to eventually build the next Apple or Domino’s Pizza.

Week One – Chapter One, Exercise Two

Chapter One, Exercise Two

Instructions: This exercise talked about how making a list of top leadership skills or managerial skills to learn. Then, for each skill, list a leader who would be a good role model for that particular activity.

  1. Skill: Speaking Up – I want to learn to speak up when I am not respected, and to speak up when something I see is wrong. I got to reclaim that time!
    1. Leader: Maxine Waters
  2. Skill: Public Speaking:  I want to get better at speaking in front of crowds, but I especially want to get better at answering questions when asked on the spot.
    1. Leader:: Michelle Obama
  3. SKill: Negotiating – I want to learn to not be shy in negotiating a salary or price. I should not feel guilty, and I want to learn how to do it well.
    1. Leader: none at the moment
  4. Skill: Self – Confidence – I need to learn how to be myself, and to use confidence to best fit me. I want to show that my passion and skills can match what I show on the outside.
    1. Leader: Rihanna (I do think she is very unapologetically herself)
  5. Skill: Helping Others – I want to make sure that I take an active role in helping my community.
    1. Leslie Knope (a fictional character, but I want to be a public official, so maybe it counts?)

I am glad I was able to think of a range of different women as my role models. It gives a better insight as to why I see them as role models because I can see them doing different things. When I think of my role models I always think I like them, but I do not really think too much about why I like them.  It did take me more time to think of people who were not celebrities before, so I need to do better at looking at my role models. I also want to find more female Asian-Americans I can look up to as well. It is so important to see role models that look like you also. I hope I can be that for someone one day!

The “How”

I think of how this will impact my life is to really take time to see who my role models are. I think I need to start looking for people that pertain to that field. I think a lot of us see role models in our family or really famous people. I think though that we have to look at the professionals who are more at the local level because those are some of the best heroes, who work in day and day out with no recognition. Those should be the ones who are praised, but even without the recognition they still make change. Also, I think just having a visual representation of what we want and who we look up to really lays out what we want. This makes me want to write down physically what my goals are. It makes it more definite and real to me.

The “Why”

            First, I think we did this activity because this lets us see what our priorities and influences. We need motivation and inspiration to become an effective leader. I think people are not just born to be a leader. I think a lot of it, just like any other skill, is to learn and practice what a good leader is. We had to have learned a skill from watching someone or something else. It is important to know who your role models because you need to look up to good people. I also think that this activity was used because we need to reflect on what we want to have in our leadership skills. Also, we need to learn how to be the best combination of what our role models on. That way we can be unique to ourselves about what our leadership skills are.

Week One – Canvas Week One and Two

Empathy is difficult. It is also crucial to the progress of both science and society. It demands that we make a deliberate and consistent effort to step out of our familiar frames of reference. Only then can we synthesize different perspectives, observations, and experiences — the very act at the heart of creativity, which will be essential to solving the increasingly complex problems that beset our world.
When I first read this I thought that dark matter was going to relate to something in our everyday lives. The things we do not know everything about, like race or dark matter, we end up being afraid to learn and talk about. I think that it is important to always open the mind to all sorts of topics.
The “HOW”
I think this article talks about how we can see the world. We always need to be learning. I think that we have to learn about different topics because at the end of the day things are connected. It is naive of us to think that everyone known about life from humans are the only things that are to be understood. We need to know that there is so much that we do not know, and we need to understand we can be a little uncomfortable with that. That is because being uncomfortable helps us evolve.
The “WHY”
For the why, I think we read this because we need to see how things are connected. It showed like in chapter two that different things can spurt different inspirations. It is important to keep on learning about what we do not know about. I also think that we need to learn about one another because then we would be more aware of perspectives, unstead of being scared like what we think dark matter is.
It was interesting because he mentioned that some people think they do things because they feel it in their heart or soul, but he says that is a biological decision. If something links in our brain that we believe in it, then we do it for ourselves. It then becomes a chain reaction, and you will have people want to be a part of what you want. You will also have people that will be loyal to you. The example I liked is the one about Martin Luther King Jr, and it helped because it was someone we all know. Sinek talked about how Dr. King believed in his cause, and he had the gift to make other people believe in his issue also. The individual then makes it their own, and they ended up showing up to the talk for themselves because they believed that is what their America should be. For the most part, we all end up wanting the same thing, but the way we go about it is the great divider.

The “HOW”

Simon Sinek does this by showing visuals and graphics of his examples. He used the “Golden Circle” method where there are three circles. The biggest circles show the “what” of a situation. All companies know to show what they want to sell to you. The circle in that “what” circle is the “how” circle, which shows that only some companies know how they will sell the product. The smallest circle in both of the other circles represents “why” companies make the products they do.

Personally, the “how” in being an innovator and taking a chance is very hard for me. My parents are immigrants, and they work hard to make sure I am happy and stable. I do feel like it is my responsibility to choose a job that will help me succeed, but if I want to be a politician it is quite a gamble. My purpose to become a politician is to genuinely see what my perspective of being a woman of color and living in a community of diversity can thrive. I know many people say that politics is corrupt, and there is no use to being a politician. But it will be like that if no one tries. I need to find my “why” of changing the world. The sky is the limit as the Orville Brothers demonstrated. I want to learn and help all kinds of people, so I hope people will learn and help me.

The “WHY”

I think the purpose of watching this Ted Talk is to have a background on all the other articles we are going to read and watch. Simon talks about how companies like Apple have successful sales because they make us believe in the “why” of their product. He explains that we need to find the motivation and inspiring message that helps connect a person to your company. Simon Sinek says “people do not buy what you do, but why you do it.”

Overall, I think it talks about how we need to find the “why” in what we do in order for other people to believe in what we do. That is important to be a leader. It is important to know that firsthand, instead of trying to go out of order with the method he talks about. I need to find my “why” with the obligated classes I take and the issues I believe in. I want to become a politician one day, so I know essentially I need to sell myself. There is one way to do it by showing my stances and being a picture perfect politician. I think though if I am not passionate about what I am doing, then I cannot convince people to believe in me. It is about being genuine and passion to get you where you need to go!

The “HOW”
“Reading makes you smarter through “a larger vocabulary and more world knowledge in addition to the abstract reasoning skills.” Reading — whether Wikipedia, Michael Lewis, or Aristotle — is one of the quickest ways to acquire and assimilate new information.”
Something that they recommended to do is join a reading group, vary your reading, apply your reading to your work, and encourage others. Doing these things can really impact our lives. It is important to be reading. It is important to learn about things we do not know about. Also with technology, we can read in multiple places. It makes it a lot easier to have a wealth of information right at our grasp. I think we can even do something as little as downloading a news app on our phone.
The “WHY”
 But deep, broad reading habits are often a defining characteristic of our greatest leaders and can catalyze insight, innovation, empathy, and personal effectiveness.
I think we read this article because of finding perspective in reading books again. I remember when I was younger that I loved reading books. It made me feel so good, I want to get back to that. I like using self-motivation to help me do the things I need to do.

The “HOW”

There are the different ways to be a smart learner. One of the tips is that “smart learners question the question”. Sometimes our yearning for learning more is stunted when we are younger. I think of times when little kids keeping asking “why?” over and over again. Most of the time they are told to stop asking those questions during class to not stop the lessons. This is when they just go to the class, and the student becomes complicit. I think my college classes I have been able to do this more, but when is the line drawn. I know that there are people that play devil’s advocate, but sometimes there are times when the professor does not want that kind of conversation. I think the “how: can sometimes be difficult. A question I have is “how can we properly question the questions without seeming rude?”

One thing that I do that smart learners do is “focus on the micro while keeping the macro in mind”. I like to think of the big picture a lot, and so I think that helps me become a smart learner. I like to take a step back most of the time, and that helps me be better at my work. Another thing I like to do is “surround myself with smarter people”. I like to think that the talks and discussions I go to will help me gain more perspectives. It is important to always train your mind to listen and discuss with other people to make good decisions. I always think if the world was just a world full of me’s, then we would not have the things we have today. It was because of people building off of each other to create the civilization we have now. Who knows if the wheel would have been invented if the world was a bunch of Alyssas?!? The last thing I will use to be a smart learner is to “listen intently”. I would like the same done to me if I wanted to give valuable information, so I need to do that with other people. I need to work on this. Sometimes when I am listening to people I need to talk out loud what I heard to make sure I understood. Sometimes that messes up the thinking the other person had. I need to allow the other person to speak, so I am able to fully learn from them.

The “WHY”

Jeff Boss talks about what things smart learners do. I think we reading this article because there is always a “why” we can ask about things that we do. We do not always have to just do the status quo. I think it is important to learn more than just what is required. We will never really learn until we think about the undiscovered. It is up to us how much we want to get out of an education. It is our responsibility to be smart learners not only for ourselves but for other people. We all need to work together and to do that we need to learn about each other.

You are Not Special

The “HOW”

He portrayed his message in such an understandable and likable way. He gives statistics. In reality, over 3.2 million other students graduate from high school the same year you did. There are even over 37,000 valedictorians. He really put things into perspective. Essentially McCullough tells us that we are not the center of the universe, which is how we are taught to feel.

He tells us the things we can do. He first talks about how we know very little when we graduate high school, and it is bad to think we know everything. He says it is important to read because we owe it to ourselves to keep on learning. In that way, we will able to be the best version of ourselves. He says “to read all the time for self-respect”. He also talks about to love what you do, and believe in its importance. There is one thing to be good at things, but there is also an important part of being passionate about what you do.

I think being in the moment is so important to do. In the world of social media, it is so hard to do things without doing fun things without posting about it and thinking about how it will look like in the pictures and videos we make. I do not use social media as much, so I have been able to avoid that. What I do need to do is to not look at other people’s lives so much. I need to just live my life. The other way to be at the moment is to be selfless. I do need to let other people know how much I care about them enough, so I need to presently tell people how much I appreciate them! I would want that done to me, so I need to do it for others. That is a way we can make people feel special. Not for the accolades, but because we appreciate them in our life.

The “WHY”

David McCullough Jr gave a commencement speech about telling his high schoolers “you are not Special”. I actually read the book for this before this class, and it honestly made me feel much better about myself. I think we watched this because it gave us a perspective on what our motives should be in life. One of the biggest insecurities people have is not being good enough, and they do that by comparing themselves to other people. America has such a mentality that there can only be one great person, so we create that environment. In order to be worth something, we need to be special. We need to differentiate ourselves in order to then feel better about ourselves. It then creates a dangerous path, and happiness becomes second in deciding what to do with our lives.

Can we also note he made a joke about Donald Trump way before the time a joke like that would be so relevant?!?

“For leadership to exist, a leader must cross paths with a crisis; an exemplary person must meet her “sinister mate.”
This quote seems so ominous to me. I think this shows that people do not have a smooth journey at all. I think we have to face our feelings inside of ourselves. That means facing the things we usually ignore. The “sinister mate” is there to test us, but it also there to help us practice with future obstacles to come. I think it is important to note that sometimes the “sinister mate” may mean an outside source, but it also means our internal selves. Once we come to terms with a “sinister mate” we can take on anything.
If we live in a world of crisis,” she continues, “we also live in a world that romanticizes crisis—that finds in it fodder for an addiction to the twenty-four-hour news cycle, multiple information streams, and constant stimulation.”
I thought this was interesting because a lot of people want to know what is going on in the world. I do not think people want to see the horrors of crisis, but we are also prone to clicking the articles and videos that showcase these dramas. I personally think it is so overwhelming to see crisis every day. It can suck so much energy out of you. In a way, this can be like for a person who owns their own business or is leading a group of people. I feel like a boss you do not get a break. There are more problems than happy announcements to make. I think it can be so overwhelming. It is important to see a good balance between the crisis and solutions.
The “HOW”
Although Jobs had considerable charisma, his real edge was his thoughtful involvement in every step of an unusually expansive leadership process. In an almost quantitative sense, he simply led more than others did.
The “how” of this article is that you have to come to terms with how you are as a person. Steve Jobs had shortcomings to his leadership from consistently yelling at people to missing plenty of meetings. I think that essentially at first it was a rough road for him. He did not really appreciate the people on his staff, and he did not have good communication with the people on his team. By the end, he realized that the problems happening day-to-day can be resolved by knowing that he needs other people to get it done.
The “WHY”
I think it is important to know that leaders are unique, and so everyone has their own “sinister mate”. That means we each have to go through our own journey on how we find out what our strengths are. It also helps us see what we can improve on. It allows us to be the best we can be. I know I have to do more soul-searching to find what I can do and what I can improve on.


The “HOW”
So instead of having jobs,  in iHolacracy people have roles. Each role belongs to a circle rather than a department, and circles are guided not by managers but by lead links. Circles overlap, and individuals hold many different roles.
Zappos has such an interesting aspect of the way they lead their people. It has a combination of a commune where people are all mostly equal, and the way they work together is through living the same lifestyle. It was cool to see the little things they do to make the space quirky. The decorations and gadgets in their offices make space more of them, and it allows for more creativity. Obviously, at first, it was going to be really scary to completely change the leadership and hierarchy of the company. Here they have roles instead of having jobs. It equalizes the playing field between employees, and it allows for a more collaborative environment.
The “WHY”
 “We do not pursue recognition, success, wealth, and belonging to live a good life,” Laloux explains. “We pursue a life well-lived, and the consequence might just be recognition, success, wealth, and love.”
This is a good example of finding the motivation in what we do. They have a common goal to live a good life, and with that will come with things like success, wealth, and recognition. It is important to have your team have the same aspirations and goals to achieve a goal. They may not be for the same reasons, but everyone needs to be on the same page. This is what Steve Jobs has mentioned in his memoirs that he did not just want the money and successful products. He wanted good products that he could be proud of and have a team knowing they did the best that they can. I need to find that kind of passion and motivation in my life to pursue.

The “HOW”
This speech was from Bryan Stevenson who talked about the system of injustice in America. He was a lawyer to help people who are on death row. He realized that he was able to better his job with one thing; proximity. Proximity is there to break down barriers. Proximity allows the ability to talk about these issues. I know that getting to know people I do not have something in common with at first, and proximity will allow us to find a commonality. He mentioned that there is a separation that society does to make it us vs. them. For example, he talked about how children are seen as different if they come from a broken home. It seems that they cannot be fixed because we are not like them. I think that I need to go more out of my way to just meet different kinds of people, so it is not a us vs/ them mentality. We should all be on the same page.
The “WHY”
“We can change the world… it is necessary to do things that are uncomfortable”
Sometimes we feel helpless, but we can together change the status of how people are living. We have to question what is supposed to be the norm. At the end of the day we are all broken people. We cannot think we are better or worse than other people. With that, we have to at the end of the day to be uncomfortable. If I want to be in public service, then I need to meet all kinds of people. That means I need to see what is out there, and that is important in being a good person and good leader.

Thanks, everyone!

-Alyssa Macaranas