Week Five – Steve Jobs – 35 – End

Hello everyone,

Here are the main parts of the chapters I want to talk about. This is the part in the book where he talks about his cancer, and how that has changed his life. He had to get a kidney transplant, but he knew he was going to leave soon.

He learned eventually to be self-aware of how he is as a leader. He had those shortcomings as a leader throughout his career, and cancer gave him a new perspective on life. He always knew he was going to die, and so he put all his heart and soul into the projects he provided. With that passion became being mean to other people when things were not going well.

The people said he had a dichotomy about him. He talked about how he would either be hero/shithead at any point in the day. As he continued with he life he found a greater meaning to his life. He knew that he could help out other people, and eventually he would resign from being CEO. Jobs would be able to mentor Tim Cook. He learned that he could not be such a change from shithead to hero in a heartbeat. He also was able to find a better balance between professional and private life. He tried to make better amend with his kids, and he created better connections with his friends. In that, people from all over sensed his character. Just like in Humphrey, being authentic anc charismatic was something he used to his advantage. I can see how this worked out. I remember charismatic people in my life, and how they were able to take control of their life. Most of the time there are many things we cannot control, so Jobs did what he could to make the most of his time in life.


“We try to use the talents we do have to express our deep feelings, to show our appreciation of all the contributions that came before us, and to add something to that flow”

Steve Jobs was able to help the future leaders in the technology field. He was seen as a mentor to people who have become leaders. Something that was mentioned a lot in this section of the book was how he helped others. He was able to help Larry Page and Mark Zuckerburg for their journey in the technology industry. I think empowering those people was what helped them become the people they are today. As a leader, you have to help elevate the employees to their greatest potential. There were plenty of people that were mad at Job’s leadership tactics, but he helped push many people to achieve what they did not they could.


“My passion has been to build an enduring company where poeple were motivated to make great products.

We read this section of the book because at the end of the day you have to be happy with what you are doing. That means a good environment, good people, and a common goal. Steve Jobs has had a bumpy road finding success, but ultimately he was able to find his footing. He was able to use his passions to create a great impact on our world. His perspective grew at the end of his life, and he influenced people after he resigned from being CEO. That is a great goal of being a leader, which is to influence your team to be self-leadership teams. He has created a legacy that will influence people for generations to come. He did have his faults, but he was proudly himself. It is so respectful seeing people be who they are unapologetically. I hope to have those components in my leadership.


Week Four – Steve Jobs 16 – 35

This is my summary with chapters 16-35 of Steve Jobs.

John’s friendship is more important than anything else, and I think maybe that’s what I should do, concentrate on our friendship.

Relationships: Jobs talks more about his relationships with people. He can be very loving, but he also can be very distant. He did this with people on his staffs and his personal loved ones. He got a little better with his daughter, and he knew how to really love when he loved. The problem before was that he did not have a good balance. He sees that sometimes personal life is more important than professional life. He was able to see priorities, and take a little step towards reciprocating to the people that were close to him. He would be more emotionally attuned in that sense. It is good to figure out how to separate your professional and personal life.

“If he knew for sure a course of action was right, he was unstoppable. But if he had doubts, he sometimes withdrew, preferring not to think about things that did not perfectly suit him…Jobs would go silent and ignore situations that made him uncomfortable.

Self: I think everyone has gone through something like this, and this makes Job at the same level as us. We all are afraid of the unknown, but he was still able o overcome it. Of course, things will be awkward and fearful. It is just making that step is the most important to do. Without those chances we would not have Pixar or Apple. I try not to go towards situations that could cause problems, but it is also about perception. It may not be a potential mistake, but a step towards the right direction!

“Our method was to develop integrated products, and that meant our process had to be integrated and collaborative”

Leadership: His leadership was better in the fact that he was able to be more open to ideas. If people had a good idea, then he was able to build up on that. The idea of integration with everyone was a progressive part of his leadership. People felt a little more comfortable in giving ideas, and the ideas of all Apple products were from them.

I really enjoyed the conversation about Pixar. He was able to find a new outlet for working with John Lassiter. I enjoy so many Pixar movies, so seeing how he was a part of it was so cool! He was able to see how he can fulfill his creative side by seeing people create at Pixar, and thus he was able to find the best in both Pixar and Apple.


There are a few things we can talk about the how of this article. One is about the

“There are no formal design reviews, so there are no huge decision points. Instead, we can make decision fluid. Since we reiterate every day and never have dumb-ass presentations, we don’t run into major disagreements.

He was able to have an open and collaborative environment. Jobs was hands-on, and that encouraged his team to really get into their work. He made sure everyone collaborated with each other, so there was a more personal experience to living at Apple. Jobs was not only able to make great products, but he also made a great way to approach leading his company.


If you want to live your life in a creative way, as an artist, you have to not look back too much. You have to be willing to take whatever you’ve done and whoever you were and throw them away.

This is important to say that what made him different was that he was not just a leader, but he was an artist. He was able to see things in an innovative and creative way. He was able to eventually encourage the engineers to think creatively as well. He created a whole new mindset for Apple, and that allowed people to be open to all ideas. This created a progressive place for the people to thrive. I want to be that kind of leader.

Week Four – Chapters 9 – 14

Hello everyone,

Here are my thoughts on chapters 9-14 of Humphrey.

Chapter Nine – Self-Leadership, Empowerment, Shared/Distributed Leadership, and Teams

This chapter talked about self-leadership and empowerment. One thing that was recommended was to empower your team members to make decisions and do what they have to do. Empowerment is a set of management practices that give greater autonomy and control to workers. I think I need to give more empowerment to my staff, instead of me trying to advocate for them all the time. I tend to be over-involved in my staff because I want to make sure they feel they are supported and helped. What ends up happening is that I end up taking those extra steps to get something done for someone else, but the person I am helping is not able to grow and learn. I need to work on letting my staff empower themselves.


I think this can be done by those three self-leadership tactics. The first thing is to change your behavior. I need to make sure I check myself when a problem arises. I need my staff to be able to figure out problems, instead of me getting control over the situation. The second tactic is to give natural rewards, so that means to give rewards when people deserve it. That means it takes time before someone sees their success, and then reiterate that success when it comes time to. The last tactic is to develop constructive thought patterns. That means to see what works and to make sure it is consistent.


I think we read this because we needed to learn about self-leadership, and that means to give leadership to the people you are in charge of. It is important to allow space for growth for the employees, and that must mean allowing your staff to make mistakes. It means helping your staff overcome their own obstacles, so everyone is utilized efficiently. So the employees are able to be efficient in the macro-tasks, and the leader is able to pay attention to the bigger-picture stuff!

Chapter Ten – Authentic Leadership Theory, Positive Organizational Scholarship, and Servant Leadership

This chapter talks about authentic leaders. Authentic leaders are persons who have achieved high levels of authenticity in that they know who they are, what they believe and value, and they act upon those values and beliefs while transparently interacting with others.


One thing to being authentic is to understand your life story and find inspiration in how you are. This means that we need to find who we really are, in order to show our authentic self. We all are broken people, so some of our faults can be the fault of what we went through. What we do need to do is find some authenticity and motivation to your story. That way people can believe in you. We can learn to see more optimism in our life, so that means we can find more confidence and happiness in our life. That will project into our work environment. Another thing that they recommend was to provide authentic communication bt accepting a difference of opinions. This allows that people are able to be their authentic selves, and that is the best where people can openly express their ideas.


We read this because we need to realize that people can see authenticity easily. It may not be something you say, but it’s a vibe you can get from someone. It is good to find your authentic self, so you can be authentic to other people. That way people can trust you being your authentic self, and that means that people can work better together. This can also be humbling to see how people are, so we are able to find more commonality. That allows for a better environment when everyone is authentic with everyone.

Chapter Eleven – Identity Processes: Individual, Relational, Social, Organizational, and Cultural

This chapter talks about identity. Identity is made up of our self-definition, our values, and our feelings about our self. We want to naturally identify and support people that are like us. We want to identify with people we think we can trust. Identity is important in finding commonality with one another, and being able to have the same goals as someone else.


The two ways I will use this chapter for this class is to develop and claim your leadership identity. I know that I have to figure out by testing what kind of leadership skills and image works best for me. I know that I am not an aggressive person, and I want to make sure people are comfortable with me. The next thing is valuing and rewarding subordinates. People are also trying to find their identities, so they need the support of the leader to find theirs. The leader needs to be confident in their identity, in order to help others.

The second way I will use this chapter is to create a collective identity of the team. My staff for residence life spends two weeks before school starts to see what our collective identity is. We do team-building, and we create an image of who we want to be. We need each other, in order to get through the next school year. There needs to be time to find that collective identity.


I think we read this article because we see our own identity, and we are perceived differently for our identity. We have to realize our own identity, and we need to make sure we have the right ones for the right levels. It is important to have an identity in order to lead. I know I need to find my voice, and with that comes experience and practice. I will hopefully find my voice and identity little by little.

Chapter Twelve – Authority, Power, and Persuasion

This chapter is about power. Power is the ability of one person to influence another person.


There are several tips in this chapter that I can use. The first one was to use the right amount of power. It is good to give leaders and employe sees the right amount of power. This means to give leaders and employees the right amount of power, Another tip is to use power with a purpose, which is a way that you can achieve financial goals and societal goals. You can do this with different types of power/ You can do this with referent power, which is involving winning the hearts and minds of followers or leading by example. You can influence the people to make it the common goals. Steve Jobs did this in a sense by inspiring his employees and followers.


I think one of the reasons that we read this because we need to learn about how power can be used and also be abused. There is a fine line for leaders when they use too much or too little of their power. You can use different types of power to lead the certain groups. It is up to you wit see what is the best choice. You need to make sure as a leader you stand your ground to the extent that is needed. If not, then the people will revolt like in The Prince. 

Chapter Thirteen – Charisma, Rhetoric, and Impression Management

This chapter is about how charisma plays into leadership. Charismatic leaders may create a sense of a common social identity.


One thing that I can use is to practice rhetoric. It says that the best possible work (short is better) and the power of rhythm. I usually ramble if I do not practice what I say, so I need to make sure that I practice those moments when I need to be charismatic. Communication is so important in the workplace, and it is so easy to have miscommunication. In order to keep the attention of the people, you need to be charismatic and effective with your language. I think we all know when we have nailed a speech or an interview. We also know when we have not done so well. When you are a leader you need to do well more times than you do bad. I need to practice me being charismatic in my own way.


The way we present ourselves is really important in how people see us as a leader. Even when we are not feeling it the important part of a leader is to be positive and encouraging. That might not be your personality but in certain situations. You might have to be that person when the time comes.

Chapter Fourteen – Transactional Leadership and Goal Setting

This chapter talks about how to make effective attainable goals. This is something I have a big problem with because I do not have consistency in how I do school work. I get things done, but I do it in a way that I stress myself more than I should.


There are a few tips on the chapter that I can use. One thing that I can do it use is to use transactional leadership that allows for contingency awards and performance. That way you can have those attainable goals for the people on the team.

The other thing they recommended to do it brew strong goals by following your passions. That helps with the motivation and power amongst the teams. It is so important to have a passion to drive you to make those goals. Each person on the team has separate passions but finding a common passion will allow better goal setting. We all need to learn to just go for our passions and know we have to put in the work to be successful.


The idea of having the courage to fail 1,000 times is why we read this article. I think this is important to read in this article that we do have to make changes. It is one thing to make goals, but we need to know what the big picture is. I need to learn what passion is, and I need to just take a leap of faith. I also need to know I can fail, but I need to fail in order to get better. This works with teams also. It is more upsetting when you work in a group, and you fail together. It also helps bring teams together, when they know they can work even harder together.

Week Three – Steve Jobs 1-16

Hello everyone,

Here is my overview of chapters 1-16 of the book “Steve Jobs”. Here are a few points I would like to talk about:

“Steve and I just sat on the sidewalk in front of Bill;s House for the longest time, just sharing storeis -mostly about pranks we’d pulled, and also what kind of electronics designs we’d done…they also shared a passion for music.

Woz and Jobs: John Wozniak and Jobs were the original two people to create Apple. What brought them together was having common interests. This reminds me of Carnegie that said to have genuine interests in people. They would not have made Apple if it were not finding trust in one another. This was created by liking each other on a personal level. Even the people who could be different can work together!


“He had a very inquiring mind that was enormously attractive. He refused to accept automatically received truths, and he wanted to examine everything himself”

Reed College and Jobs: This was really interesting to me because he did not follow the path of finishing college and find a job. He did not go to a lot of his classes, and he did not finish his education. The thing that made him different was that he was learning on his own. He did not do all the classes, but he was really learning and retaining information form the class. For some classes, you just learn the material and then forget it. Just like in Think Smart it is important to keep on learning.

He was interested not jsut in engineering, but also the business aspects. I told him “Pretened to be completely in control and people will assume you are”.

“He emphasized that you should never starta company with the goal of getting rich. Your goal should be making somethingyou believe in and making a company that will last”

Jobs and his mentors: Jobs had many mentors, and that is important to have when finding your leadership skills. Sometimes they give more technical advice, but also they help empower you to do great. You are influenced by the people you are around, so being around people like Nolan helped Jobs become the person he is. They helped instill in him that his first priority should not just be about making his money, and the priority is about building a stable company. This helped Jobs direct his goals, and that is why Apple was able to thrive through all these years.

“I have always liked Steve, but I have found it impossible to work for him…Jobs regularly miss appointments. This is so well-known as to be almost a running joke…

“He was very emotionally attuned, able to read people and know their psychological strengths and vulnerabilities…He intuitively knew when someone was faking it or truly knew something…It is a common trait in people whoa re charismatic and knows how to manipulate people.

“Let’s have a renegade feeling of our group. We can moves fast, We can get things done. Happy 28th Steve. The Journey is the Reward- The Pirates”

Leadership – There have been many accounts of how Jobs was as a leader. I think that he created a fast-moving environment, but he was not able to help everyone. He was creating some inconsistencies in what he expected to form his employees. He was not able to do it himself, and I think that created some tension with some employees. I think though he figured out that the people he vibed with were super successful. He was able to create a group identity of the Pirates, and they were able to find that common goal. He was able to make people feel the vision he wanted them to see. Thus they were motivated because they wanted to be a part of that vision.


The main points I got from this is that you get can get inspiration from everywhere, so keep on learning. He found his passion for constantly learning and trying new experiences. He got inspiration from his childhood and the people around him. It is good to surround yourself with good people and to find good mentors. He did have his faults; he would lie, he would belittle people, and he would not keep his word. The company still grew, and he would soon see that his passion (not always translated well) would be all worth it. It is good to be genuinely interested in people.


“The goal was never to beat the competition or to make a lot of money. It was to do the greatest thing possible, or even a little greater.

For the why, we were able to see that Jobs is a human. He had his struggles, and he had his experiences influence him in the choices he has made. We all have experienced things, and that has influenced on the things we have done. He had to deal with that while trying to build a company. You can see his ups and downs, and that gives authenticity to how he was as a person. He also knew his strengths, so he used that to help control his people. This could be a powerful part of his leadership, and he is still figuring out the perfect equation. It allows us to see that there will be obstacles on the road, but it can be done. He is just like us, and he just took chances on himself.

Week Three – Chapter Eight

Chapter Eight – The Importance of Affect and Emotions to Leadership

This chapter starts off with how Sir Richard Branson found his success by choosing ventures that “sounded like fun”. Leaders succeed by motivating their employees by creating a positive, fun-filled atmosphere.
Leaders need to act like mood managers responsible to improve their employees’ moods and morale. I can picture the enthusiastic leaders who can have all these bursts of energy to brighten up a crowd. I am not one of those people. I can be motivated and dedicated to a role, but screaming and jumping for joy is not one of my strong suits. I can be, but I can lose energy so quickly.

One thing I found interesting was seeing the methods for controlling emotion in the workplace. The ones that stuck out to me were prescribing emotion and normalizing emotion. I saw this a lot in my job as an RA for people on my staff. Prescribing emotions are organizational rules and expectations that regulate which emotions employees display to other and the manner in which they display them. This must happen to people in retail. When my staff members are upset at how a resident treated them we cannot talk back to a resident. I tell my staff that they will have a backup, and to just essentially take a deep breath and speak nicely. When the situation is done, then I tell the staff to let it all out with the staff. The feelings are valid from the staff member, but our job is to be helpful to the residents. We cannot do that if we are filled with emotions. I can relate to this method a lot. The other method that I relate to is the normalizing emotion, which are procedures that restore the emotional equilibrium after the expression of disruptive emotions. This can help to rationalize a set of emotions. When I am doing a mediation between two roommates people usually deflect when it comes to the root of the problem. When discussing not trusting each other, then one roommate fires back by saying the other person does not take out the trash. It ends up being that someone talks about how they have been stressed this semester, so that is why they have been acting up. It normalizes what they are doing, and only helps the situation temporarily. It is usually a long process to get things fixed.

The “HOW”

There were a few great points on how to use emotion to help in the workplace. One thing that we did was improving job satisfaction. It is important that emotion is used to improve the job satisfaction. If people are satisfied with what is happening at work, then they will work harder. We can do this by creating an inviting atmosphere for the work environment. It said in the book to create a fun atmosphere, and I think that really has to do with the dynamics between the employees. I hope to do that this upcoming year with my staff. Another thing that they said was valuing and rewarding employees. It is important that setting the tone of the workplace is by making sure that employees know they are in a supportive environment. People need to know there can be support and support within the environment, In order to do those controlling emotions in the workplace is crucial. If one person is angry at the moment, then they have to make sure they control their emotion. That way their negative feelings do now get spread to other people. We need to make sure we are all on the same page, and that there is also a space created to talk about feelings about problems.

The “WHY”

We read this article because it shows the importance of how dealing with emotions affects how you are as a leader. You not only have to control your own emotions but you have to control the emotions of others. That is why it is important to know the methods on how to manage and control your emotions. They had some good examples of little things that can happen around the workplace, and they show solutions to those situations. I also needed to reflect on how I respond to situations with my emotions. Sometimes I just react instinctively, and I need to make sure I make the best move for the given situation.

Volunteer Blog #2

Hello everyone,

Here is my second blog about volunteering at Habitat for Humanity. Overall, I was not able to make all 15 hours of my volunteer hours. I was only able to do eight hours, so I should have planned more accordingly about my hours. I went to the Habitat for Humanity Re-Store in Manassas.

This was again a very tiring experience, but I know I needed to experience something like this. I have thought before on working in the coordinating and planning field of non-profit organizations. I did not see doing the laborious work as something I could excel in, so I did not think I could do this. I have a better appreciation for the work they do. This is some tiring work of keeping up with the things to be donated to the things that are bought at the store. There is so much they have to go through. There are mountains of appliances, furniture, and decorations.

I could not take pictures of all the back, but the back has anything you could think of to be given away,


This relates to class for a few reasons. The first reason is finding motivation when being a leader. People need a common motivation to get something done. When I see that the people at the store see the overall goal of what they are doing it helps them finish the day. I know I want to find a passion that will eventually help contribute to the big picture. The big picture is to work hard to help other people. There are different motivations for the people that volunteer at the Re-Store, but we feed into the motivation that the employees have in the Restore. I was really tired by the end of it, but it was such a relief to know I could help in even the littlest of ways. Change happens on all levels!

Also, something I really liked was the volunteering opportunity created an open and light-hearted environment. It is important to do when the work starts to get tiring. We need to know what the core of what our work is for. The people there know the money and supplies will eventually go to building homes for people that need it. The person in charge of us made us feel comfortable by having good jokes and complimenting us on our work. There were different personalities in the workroom, but we found some commonalities between each other. There are also people I did not necessarily vibe with, but we learned to work with each other. The use of Carnegie of finding genuine appreciation for the people around us help. The fact that all these people live in the same town as I do, but we have had completely different childhoods and life paths were cool to hear about.


I think this volunteering aspect of the class was used because sometimes we have to get out of our comfort zone. We know that the journey of being a good leader is not going to be an easy one. In order to be more versatile and better at obstacles to come it is good to see how you work in different work environments. I got to encounter different types of people. I got to do different skills, and I would not think to do that if it weren’t for the requirement, and that is really sad. I do not think to work at the store is my direction in life, but I need to make sure I get a little uncomfortable to see what is out there. I need to see what works for me, and with that, I get to meet new people. And it was a good opportunity to also just be a good person in the community. I think it is important for a leader to help even out of work. I think it is good to be a contributor to your community because that will help in the long run. You can meet more people, and you can feel more connected to people. That will help with my leadership skills!

Week Three – The Prince Chapters 16-19

The Prince

Here are some quotes I got from the reading of The Prince Chapter 16-19.

Chapter XVI – Concerning Liberality and Meanness

“We have not seen great things done in our time except by those who have been considered mean; the rest have failed.”

This is the opposite of that theory of being nice in the Humphrey book. It said that being nice will ultimately help you in the business world. It is different from this quote. I can think of peaceful leaders, but I guess the ones that are mean have an impact. It is a bad impact, but it an effective impact nevertheless. I hope this can change overall. I personally do not see myself doing this approach, but I feel it might happen if being nice is not effective. That is sad. Sometimes being mean ensures that no one will take advantage of you.


Returning to the question of being feared or loved, I conclude that, men loving according to their own will and fearing according to that of the prince, a wise prince should establish himself on that which is in his own control and not in that of others; he must endeavor only to avoid hatred, as is noted.

There is always the question for leaders if they should either be feared or loved. It is confusing where you want that line to be drawn. I personally think that I want to be respected, but loved means that they are not seeing you for who you really are. I think that is dangerous also. It is good to find a balance in being a leader with power. People can assume that with the power you need to be fearful. It can depend on the leader.


Therefore. it is necessary for a prince to understand how to avail himself of the beast and the man.

A good leader has a combination of a beast and a man. I think this means that the leader needs to find the strength in both the aspects of a beast and a man. That way the leader is the best leader they can be. They can be strong when they need to. That way he can take on any beast or man.


“And well-ordered states and wise princes have taken every care not to drive the nobles to desperation, and to keep the people satisfied and contented, for this is one of the most important objects a prince can have.”

In a utopia, it is the goal to keep people satisfied and contented. In the real world that is the desired goal, but it is hard to satisfy everyone. There is a theory that the government limits certain groups, or the middle-class in general to keep the government in power. For people in power, there needs to be a livable condition to live in that society. In a way, it seems that this talks about giving people a livable life, but overall limiting the people from gaining more power.

The “HOW”

Everyone sees what you appear to be, few really know what you are, and those few dare not oppose themselves to the opinion of the many, who have the majesty of the state to defend them; and in the actions of all men, and especially of princes, which it is not prudent to challenge, one judges by the result.

The “how” of this article is that you present yourself to the world to an extent. For the roles you play, like a leader of a team, you need to present yourself as a leader. Your perception of a leader may not always be how you are as a person. You must make those changes to be a good leader. It is insightful because sometimes we think certain people are evil, but most of the time we do not really get to know the real them. We just know them from certain experiences. Those experiences do not embody them as a person. It is good to realize that we need to give people the benefit of the doubt and that we need to pay attention to how people perceive us when we are in leadership roles.

“Nevertheless, he ought to be slow to believe and to act, nor should he himself show fear, but proceed in a temperate manner with prudence and humanity, so that too much confidence may not make him incautious and too much distrust renders him intolerable.”

This is another “how” we can be good leaders. It is so easy to be irrational and thinks emotionally. When you oversee other people, you should take a step back and really think about decisions. One mistake could cost other people’s livelihood and jobs. It is again about having the traits of being rational and confident as a leader. Sometimes we also just should fake it until we make it. Whatever decision is made the leader needs to evoke that the decision is the best choice or the people will be nervous and non-trusting.

The “WHY”

“whether it be better to be loved than feared or feared than loved? It may be answered that one should wish to be both, but, because it is difficult to unite them in one person, it is much safer to be feared than loved, when, of the two, either must be dispensed with.

I think the “why” of the article is seeing that the princes were like leaders. I think this quote is not the most encouraging, but it talks about the reality of how the world works. It is much safer to be feared than be loved. I do not feel like I want to approach my leadership in that style, but I need to know that I cannot stick with one leadership style. I think that I need to make sure I accommodate the leadership style to what is happening to me. I hope I do not have to work with trying to take over a country through war, but I know at points I need to show an image of toughness for my leadership. I do not think people fear me, so I hope I can find a good balance between being respected and liked. It is hard to find a balance, so that means work needs to be put into it.

Week Three – Chapter Seven, Exercise Two

Chapter Seven Exercise Two

Commitment: Good Time, Bad Times

Think of some of the activities that you’ve done with your friends, coworkers, and teammates. Sort these into two categories:

  • Fun activities such as listening to music and going to parties or movies
  • Activities when your car breaks down, helping you when you are sick.

Now rate each activity (1-10 scale) on how much they make you feel committed and loyal to the other person.

Category #1

  • Watching T.V shows -I like to watch T.V. shows with my friends with commentary! – 7
  • Hanging out -I like having a chill time with my family and friends at home talking – 6
  • Going to the movies -I think going with a friend to react with each other during a movie is fun – 6
  • Car Talks – I like this fun activity because the best conversations happen here for me – 9

Category #2

  • Helping with my Homework -I think people wanting to work with you to succeed is good – 8
  • Keeping me company on an errand – I like that people think to want to hang out with you – 8
  • Willing to do something the other wants to do – The willingness to go out of your comfort zone. 10

The “HOW”

“What things can leaders do to demonstrate their commitment and loyalty to their team?

This question asked in the reading can explain the “how” of the article. Leaders can see what makes their specific employees feel like they are bonding. Some groups do team-building exercises because they want to achieve a sense of commonality and trust. There can be other ways to do that. One thing I noticed was finding something to pay attention to that both people like can help. For watching a movie or going out to go bowling a commonality can open a new connection. It is good to know people outside of the workplace as well.

The “WHY”

“Which leader gets your commitment: the one who throws great office parties or the one who stays late working side by side with you on your big projects?

I think the “why” of this article is to see what we want in a leader. I think the person who stays up late working side by side with you on your big project is more important than the one who grows great office parties. It depends on what the leader is there for. It is one thing if the leader is supposed to bring people together, or if the goal is to get things done efficiently. It also can show how you want to be as a leader. I think that having those moments where people would go out of their way to help you with homesick or keep you company on a late night is better for connecting. I can see how I can incorporate that into what I do, when I have the leadership role.